From the moment a man walks into a church, says David Murrow, he gets the message that he doesn’t belong. There’s the feminine décor, which Murrow calls “Victorian parlor motif”: quilted banners, flowers, lace doilies, boxes of tissues. And don’t forget the music, which often describes Jesus as the ultimate boyfriend. This female focus makes a difference, and Murrow says it’s the reason why most churches are about 60 percent female, 40 percent male.